Darul Iftaa Mahmudiyyah

My wife often chooses bedtime as the time for negotiation on the issues we disagree, deprives me of my pleasure (e.g., sexual intercourse). What should I do?

· 18 Dhuʻl-Hijjah 1423 AH1 min readFatwa 2193English

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My wife often chooses bedtime as the time for negotiation on the issues we disagree, deprives me of my pleasure (e.g., sexual intercourse). What should I do?

Answer

We suggest you use a very loving and caring attitude to your wife. Thereafter, with lot of wisdom and diplomacy you address the issue with her and let her know of your displeasure of her actions.

This will create a stronger bond and relationship between you and your wife. Do not adopt an aggressive attitude, hence, resulting in your marriage becoming a misery.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

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