Darul Iftaa Mahmudiyyah

How should I treat the a marriage when the girl was my brothers girlfriend?

· 27 Dhuʻl-Qiʻdah 1421 AH1 min readFatwa 2311English

Question

My parents are letting my brother marry his girlfriend (which is muslim) to save our family the shame of him continuing in a haram relationship with her. We were all very angry that he was doing this. However, my parents were unable to curve his behavior, and unwilling to tell him to leave the house if he didn't stop. I feel that I can never have any respect for the girl. During the times he was taking her out, I spoke to her and demanded she stop her actions ( I also told this to my brother). I don't plan on attending the wedding, is this wrong?. Islamicly how should i treat her knowing how she hooked my brother?

Answer

As much as you have advised them on this unislamic relationship. By getting married it will remove them from this and if a person makes sincere tauba(repents) and follows the shariah, I am sure that you would find it in your heart to forgive and maintain the family relationship which Islam places emphasis on. As Nabi (salllallahu alyhi wasallam) said "Whoever breaks family ties, breaks his path to Jannah." So one needs to treat the sister-in-law as part of the family.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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