Foreplay or intercourse?

· 28 Muharram 1438 AH1 min readFatwa 37075English

Question

Salam

My question is

it is obligatory for wife to come to her husband when he requests her for intimacy

BUT is it obligatory for her to be intimate with him and allow him foreplay or the only obligation is for intercourse?

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Fulfilment in intercourse between the spouses is one of the core objectives of a marriage which is ideally achieved through mutual co-operation. The foreplay before intercourse serves to bring about that mutual co-operation for intercourse.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Huzaifah Deedat

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

References (Arabic / Urdu sources)

صحيح البخاري-دار طوق النجاة (4/ 116)

حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِذَا دَعَا الرَّجُلُ امْرَأَتَهُ إِلَى فِرَاشِهِ فَأَبَتْ فَبَاتَ غَضْبَانَ عَلَيْهَا لَعَنَتْهَا المَلاَئِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ

Answered by
Huzaifah Deedat
Checked & approved by
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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