Depression - What do i do?
Question
Because of my depression, I shout at my parents even if I don't want to. I know what I am doing is a sin; and O don't like to be in their presence. What should I do?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
You are aware that it is a sin to shout at your parents. See the following verse:
Translation: Your Rabb has commanded that you worship only Him and that you treat your parents kindly. If anyone of the two or both of them reaches old age with you, then do not even tell them ‘Oof’ and do not rebuke them. Speak gently to them. (Bani Israa’eel: 23)
If you are feeling helpless, you should consult a specialist doctor for analyses and medication.
We also advise you to recite the following Duaas:
Translation: There is no Illah but you. You are Pure. I have certainly been from among the wrong doers. (Ambiyaa: 83)
Translation: Whenever a matter would distress Rasullullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalam) he would recite: O Living and Eternal Maintainer, by your living I seek help. (Tirmidhi: 3524)
Translation: O Allah, I take refuge in you from anxiety and sorrow. (Bukhari: 5425)
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mahmood Suliman
Student Darul Iftaa
Gaborone, Botswana
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
References (Arabic / Urdu sources)
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا (الاسراء: 23)
{لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنْتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ} [الأنبياء: 87]
كَانَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا كَرَبَهُ أَمْرٌ قَالَ: يَا حَيُّ يَا قَيُّومُ بِرَحْمَتِكَ أَسْتَغِيثُ (الترمذي: 3524)
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الهَمِّ وَالحَزَنِ... (البخاري: 5425)ِ
- Answered by
- Mahmood Suliman
- Checked & approved by
- Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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