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Wife calling the husband by his name

· 22 Rabiʻ II 1440 AH1 min readEnglish

Question

Can a wife call her husband by his name?

Answer

The great jurist, Allamah Shaami (rahimahullah) has mentioned that it is reprehensible (makrooh) for the wife to call the husband by his name. Hence, when addressing him or calling him, she should call him with a respectable title e.g. if he is an aalim or haafiz, she may call him Haafiz Saheb or Moulana. If he is not an aalim or haafiz, she may refer to him as the father of her eldest son or daughter e.g. Zaid's father or Faatimah's father.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

References (Arabic / Urdu sources)

(ويكره أن يدعو الرجل أباه وأن تدعو المرأة زوجها باسمه) اهـ بلفظه.(الدر المختار 6/418)

قال العلامة ابن عابدين - رحمه الله-: (قوله ويكره أن يدعو إلخ) بل لا بد من لفظ يفيد التعظيم كيا سيدي ونحوه لمزيد حقهما على الولد والزوجة، وليس هذا من التزكية، لأنها راجعة إلى المدعو بأن يصف نفسه بما يفيدها لا إلى الداعي المطلوب منه التأدب مع من هو فوقه.(رد المحتار 6/418)

يكره أن يدعو الرجل أباه والمرأة زوجها باسمه كذا في السراجية.(الفتاوى الهندية 5/362)

Answered by
Mufti Zakaria Makada
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Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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