Husband not fulfilling conjugal rights of the wife

· 23 Dhuʻl-Qiʻdah 1442 AH1 min readEnglish

Question

My husband is an amazing provider financially but he has had sexual intercourse only a handful of times with me since we have been married. Most of the time after I begged him. He has cheated on me with sex workers many times. We would often have gaps of 2-3 months but this time we have not even touched one another in 5 months. Then i found out about “ila” divorce. He says he loves me but does not feel sexually attracted to me. Am I divorced? Is this marriage over? He says he has not been with any woman in these past 5 months too but who can believe a liar? We have no children and have been married for 2 years.

Answer

If he did not divorce you, then you are still in his nikaah. However, if your husband does not want to fulfil your conjugal rights and it is difficult for you to continue in the nikaah, then you may ask him for a separation.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & approved by
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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