Speaking to fiancée

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

The concept of prolonged engagements is foreign to Shari’ah. It was the practice of the Rasulullaah (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) and the Sahaabah (Radhiyallaahu ‘anhum) that they would wed at the earliest possible once a match was found. A “fiancé” and “fiancée” are regarded non-mahrams until they marry. Hence, it is absolutely forbidden (haram) for a fiancé to unnecessarily interact with his fiancée in any way including talking by phone.

You may consider having the nikaah done now and the consummation later on after six months. In this case, it will be permissible for you to freely speak to her. It is permissible to marry a woman at a distance by proxy. That is to appoint a third person as your representative at the location of your fiancée to get you married. The representative will get you married to your fiancée on your behalf in the presence of at least two males or one male and two female witnesses. The representative will do the proposal and your fiancée or her representative will accept[i].

And Allah Ta’aala Knows Best

Ibn al-Fawz

Student, Darul Iftaa

New York, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.