i dont want to marry the guy im engaged to!!

3 Apr 2002 · 20 Muharram 1423 AH1 min readFatwa 5323English

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I dont want to marry my cousin whom i have been engaged to since 1998.. the reason i was engaged to him was t o bring him to states and now he is here but i have no deisre to marry him..parents are not agreeing they say we know that islam doesnt require force but still we will marry u to him b/c people will make fun of us!1 what should i do mufthi saheb? i need some help..im not willing to do isthkhara fore its only to be done if u have doubts about anything, i am intersted in a very pious person who understands islam and is a very good person i havnt told my parents about him or else they will kill me!! what can i do in this matter? pls help me and remeber us in ur du'ua's..

Answer

According to the Shari'ah, an adult male and female has an independent right to choose his/her marriage partner. An adult is not bound to follow the family custom. He/she may do so if he/she wish to.

It is not proper for the elders of the family to compel one to go against his/her wishes within the Shari'ah. We also advise that Nikah is a major step in one's life and it is important to make Istikhaara as well as seek the guidance and experience of one's seniors.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai

Answered by: Mufti Ebrahim Desai

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